My parents and family have been on the 'boy' hunt for
nearly 3 years. An Indian unmarried 25 year old girl meant it was 'time'. I've
met so many interesting people in the process, some I’m still friends with till
date. My aunt always asked me "What kind of a boy do you want to get
married to?” I had a mental checklist in my mind, just like every other girl
did.
.. And then I met Vaibhav :) for the second time in 8
years. He is this notorious, outgoing, flirtatious, talkative, gorgeous
and fun loving person. We were such different people, yet I'd be lying if I
said there wasn't a spark when we met. He lives for the moment and I plan my
future. He is into fitness; my definition of fitness is a stroll in the park.
We like different cuisines and we enjoy different genres of music. He doesn't
like to make a bid deal of his birthday (no cake cutting) and I would want to
celebrate it in style (multiple cakes if possible). He'd be the kind of person
who would want to go out partying the night away where as I would rather have
friends home for a fun night in. He is extremely passionate about aviation and his
career whereas I'm someone who enjoys work but would still be in a 'safe'
profession. He was nothing of what I had imagined in my life partner, and yet I
can’t think of anyone else I would rather spend my life with.
How did it happen? I was scared and so was he. We had
our families involved and within a matter of a few days we were getting
engaged. But that’s where the scary part stopped and since then it’s been an
amazing adventure. I can tell you very honestly, that it’s only after our
engagement that I started falling more in love with him. Watching him treat my
mom like his own, seeing how he was laughing with my dad, showing kindness and
affection to my family who mean the world to me but whom he has only met very
recently - this changed everything for me. Watching my family fall in love with
him made me love him even more.
It’s not easy, when we are such different people and
yet we have so many more important things in common. We balance out our
differences where he teaches me to be adventures and I help him plan the
future. He shows me how to be passionate about something and I TRY to teach him
a new language (tamil). We embrace each other’s differences and this is what
makes it unbelievably exciting.
How boring would life have been if we married someone
identical to us? I’m not an expert in this and we are barely through our first
year, but all I know is that this wonderful man has made me undeniably
happy.
The reason I write this today is because so often I
see people complaining, that they cant find the 'perfect' someone. I know that
feeling since I was there too. Just recollect that checklist, burn it and go
out with an open mind. I promise you, this wonderful world will surprise
you.
I go back to think of my checklist again and I wonder,
did I want all those things in a man only so that my life would be smooth
sailing? In that case, Id rather have a roller-coaster of a life.
Put your seatbelt on and enjoy the ride :)
